And there can be some awfully wanky people in fandom. I remember the aggravation that people got for writing kinky fic in SGA and the way that the 'fans' compromised Jared's wedding list in Supernatural and left messages saying that Jared was only marrying Genevieve so she could be a beard for he and Jensen. This is one of the reasons why i only interact with people who I like and who seem reasonable :)